Indonesians are super friendly. Indonesians are chatterboxes.
I’ve heard those things a million times from visitors to my beloved country. So, what do I think about that?
That’s such a hard question. Indonesians are amiable and easy to talk to, especially if you speak our language, Bahasa Indonesian. Others that don't speak the language are no less friendly.
We're simply friendly and like to talk, question, and gossip. If you're a foreigner living in Indonesia, or you're just simply a tourist, you might consider it as great hospitality while still in the ‘honeymoon phase’. You'll have this feeling that everything is still fine, beautiful, nice. This usually lasts up to two weeks of your vacation, but sometimes lasts longer. During that phase, you won’t mind talking to an amiable, unknown stranger you met at the warung (small kiosk), or a friendly seller, etc. But after the honeymoon phase ends, you'll soon become a really quiet person, keeping away from anyone you think might ask you something.
We love asking. Questions are the best way to open a warm, long-lasting (sometimes everlasting) conversation. There are many questions in Indonesia that are considered polite that you might think are really mmm... impolite, offensive, or blunt. Based on my long, rich experience as a native, here are the most frequently asked questions in Indonesia:
Other extreme questions:
Aaannnddd, thousands of questions I can’t even describe here.
How should you react?
I love my own culture, and I love Indonesia, but that doesn’t mean I approve of all the questions Indonesians ask. We are friendly, but sometimes, to be frank, we are quite annoying (even to other Indonesians). We ask so many questions because we care too much, even though it's certainly not our business.
Have a great adventure in Indonesia!